How to get out of your own Way and get everything you want! (and a little romance)

Years ago, I wanted a bike, but not just any bike (and no, I wasn’t a kid at the time).

I met a man who rode a bicycle. We fell in love and within days, we were living together. (another dreamy story).

We not only moved in together, but shortly after that, decided to leave the rat-race (Sydney, Australia) live by the sea, and create a lifestyle based on our values and passions.(another great story) And that meant living a location-free lifestyle based on (his) work and our top priorities and passions.

We wanted to be free to ride our bikes most days, on the best trails around, and allow our work to fit into that with ease. And that’s what we’ve done pretty much for around 30 years now. (And although we still love to ride, we aren’t quite as obsessed as we were then)

I decided to become a fitness Instructor which made perfect sense as I lived at the gym pretty much when I wasn’t riding and was a total health and fitness junky. I took the course, sat the exam and when I returned home (after the exam), I found a beautiful bicycle in the loungeroom. A gift from my love, with a card saying how proud he was of me - no matter what the outcome of the exam. 

So, I passed the exam, we began our new life, found a perfect hideaway that was tailor-made for our lifestyle, and beyond. And then because of our location I discovered mountain biking and became a MTB riding junky.

So now I wanted a lighter bike, a specific bike, with all the expensive (jewellery like) specs on it. The bright, shiny, lightweight, brake levers, chain rings, shocks etc. I knew exactly what I wanted. I dreamed about this bike, and then I saw it in a store.

Hand-made in the USA read the sticker. It was the Rolls Royce brand of bicycles at the time. (now sadly, all made in China) But,

We didn’t have a ton of money at this time, so as the bike was around $4/5,000? it wasn’t really feasible (for most people) For me, it was a matter of “how can I have this, and bring it home?

and this is where I get to the main event - so glad you’re still here.

MY SINGLE BEST TIP TO get out of your own way and get everything you want…..(eventually)

I really, really, wanted this beautiful hand-crafted mountain bike, made of aircraft aluminium, even the builders name was carved into it. It was so light, so beautiful, and yellow!!

And so I asked the guy in the shop how long he would hold it for me? He said 3 months “if you put a decent deposit down.” ((amazing, right!?) I gave him $300 - all the spare cash I had. I think he was talking about $1,000 but he loved my enthusiasm, and was also a sweetie.

What’s important here is that I knew it was mine, no doubt whatsoever in my mind. It was even the colour I wanted, (these bikes were very rare in Australia at that time,) so I knew it was meant to be the minute I saw it.

It’s all I thought about. I was so excited that I was going to have this bike and imagined riding the trails, being more confident, and trying things I hadn’t dared try before.

I had the bike in 3 weeks. Yes WEEKS! It still amazes me how we can ALWAYS get what we want if we truly want it. (And I’ve got a lot of stories like this one, some at a much higher level, but this one is still the closest to my heart.)

HOW DID I DO THAT?

Opportunites fell ‘out of the sky’ almost from the moment I made the decision to have it. And I got out of my own way. That was the critical piece. I was so READY to RECEIVE.

1. I didn’t worry about HOW I would get this, or think I couldn’t have it for some reason.

2. I followed every ‘opportunity’ no matter how bizarre it sounded (and some did)

3. I totally BELIEVED - I was ready to RECEIVE and I was SO GRATEFUL that this bike had manifested itself in the way that it had so that I could SEE it, touch it, feel it!

Now I know this sounds a bit woo woo, and that’s OK. But, I can almost guarantee that you have had a similar experience, no matter how insignificant it might have felt at the time. It’s how the Universe works, how WE work, WHEN we can get out of our own way.

Remember, I did this long before I discovered coaching, or the Universal Laws, NLP, Quantum Leap or anything like that. All of that has just confirmed what I was doing organically. Learning all of that has given me so many insights and allowed me to now be able to teach it to others,.(I had no clue how this all fit together back then)

STOP PUSHING

And that’s how I now help others in my work as a certified Quantum Leap Coach. I help clients take Quantum Leaps from a place of belief, truth, possibility and decision. So rather that having to push for what they want (I loathe that’ PUSH’ word), they are PULLED FORWARD by their own inner knowing, belief and desire for whatever it is that they truly want. That is what they learn when doing my 10 week programme. (I’ve written many posts of how I specifically work, if you’d care to visit my FB profile)

We can all do this, it’s not for the chosen few. That would make no sense whatsoever in the big scheme of things. We are all natural co-creators, WITH the Universe, but yes, we need to do our part. I say ‘with the Universe’ but really, we are one, and once you can wrap your head around that, it makes even more sense.

And that’s the most difficult thing to do for many of us. For me, it’s pretty natural now because I have so much proof, not just from myself but from others.

In fact it’s ridiculous how quickly this can happen. The ONLY thing stopping any of us is ourselves. And that often comes from previous programming. So change needs to be made at a neurological level. And this takes time and practice - and you need to know that going in.

ORCHESTRATE YOUR OWN LIFE

You no longer need to travel to the beat of other people’s drums, you have your own set of drums, in fact a whole orchestra is at your beck and call. You GET to orchestrate your own life, note by note!

Our subconscious is always trying to keep us safe. (that’s its job) And until you are willing to step out of your safety zone, you’ll continue to get mediocre results at best. And why it’s referrred to as a safety (or comfort) zone is beyond me because in my opinion it’s anything but. I mean what’s safe about NOT being able to be your own authority, your own decision maker or director of your own mind movies? NOTHING!

And by the way, I’m not just talking now about making a lot of money, of being the biggest best - whatever you are - this is true for anything and everything in your life. Even something as simple as buying a bicycle. (The WHAT and HOW are irrelevant) 

*** Your relationships

*** Your health, fitness and wellness

*** Your work/career/business

*** Your love life

*** The Who, What and How you want to BE

All of that and more

Whatever it is that you desire in any area of your life, just know that it is already avaialable to you, right now. And until you believe that, you won’t see it and know that it has always been there And the flood of opportunities won’t appear.

TOO WOO WOO?

I think it’s the simplicity of this that is difficult for many to grasp. We are all so hell-bent on having everything laid out step by step before we dare make a move. And we LOVE to complicate things or make them harder. (Another way to sabotage ourselves)

The Universal Laws, Neuroscience, and Quantum Physics are not woo woo, (even though they may have some woo woo characteristics.) For me they are totally logical, and a path we can all follow. And,they make so much more sense than what is on offer right now! There is no magic here, YOU are the magic, when - you get out of your own way.

No other way makes sense. We were not born to work gazillions of hours to earn a mediocre wage and save some of that to have a 4 week holiday…I mean really? For 40 - 50, years? Boy, have we been conned! (I give thanks that I never fell for that even early on)

And if that’s what you want, then make sure it’s what you choose, not something that has been thrust upon you. You GET to decide how you want to live. For me it’s a very simple life, it doesn’t take a lot to make me happy.

I make me happy!  (writing these 4 simple words gave me goose bumps, try writing this out for yourself)

EXPERIENCE MORE MOMENTS

Drop me in a forest on a lovely day, heavenly. When I catch a glimps of dolphins playing in the ocean, ecstatic! Take me out for a beautiful meal cooked with love, and I’m yours! The feel of silk on my face, a tender touch, the joy a dog shows when I come home, these are what make up my favourite moments. And of course, riding my bike. (Who knew you could create such a beautiful, meaningful life based around that?)

And it’s the moments I want more of.

You will have different visions, hopes and dreams. And a lot of that depends on your age and stage of life, right? And the beauty is that it makes no difference, you can have whatever it is that you REALLY want.

We’re not living in the days of Dickens, or even the Industrial Age,where ‘big’ men in ‘big’ offices lorded over us and told us how it was going to be. Remember Mr Burns on the Simpsons, yeh, like that!

We have our own brain, our own thoughts, our own choices and our own behaviours and we have total authority over them, if we choose - and have permission to do so. Yes, permission, that can be a biggy. I cover that in my programme too.

RUN YOUR OWN RACE

Self-efficacy is everything it’s cracked up to be. And the power to live your life in full expression is the only way to experience that for yourself. No Matter What!

Years ago an old boyfriend said to me “Joanie, you’ve gotta run your own race” when I had asked his opinion about something. And it really hit home because I thought I was. So whether you call it that, or self-efficacy, to me it’s the same thing. Be your own biggest asset and ally - in all the BEST ways, not from a state of 'defensive' bravado or cockiness.

That’s what I want for myself, and all of my clients.

BE your own authority, live in possibility, be OK with not knowing HOW? Take a stand for your life, your business, your health, your financial abundance. And your ability to laugh, really laugh, feeling every vibration throughout your body until it hurts. How long has it been since you let go enough to do that?

BE who you were put on this earth to be. Manifest your dreams, the real dreams, not the ones that you think will be OK with everyone else. Never settle for anything less than your best self!

And if you need help with that, I’m a click away. And remember, it’s never too late, and you’re never too old.