Commitment is Key (no more half-assed decisions)

Over the past few months we’ve experienced some big shifts and changes, in ourselves, in our clients, in our kids and siblings, and what I’ve noticed is that many of us have taken this strange and unique time to make amends to who we are BEing. (some of us have discovered that we weren’t who we thought we were.)

For some it’s been a time of growth and new experiences, deeper friendships and personal enlightenment and transformation, and for others a time of stress and anxiety. A lack of safety and certainty have put many into a state of fear and  with a sense of  hopelessness.Whichever side of the spectrum you’re at, decisions have been made….And with that has come transformational change. Some have risen to the challenge even though it has been difficult, and a far cry from their usual behaviour. Something has spurred them on enough to make the changes they needed to make to not only handle this uncommon situation, but to take leaps and bounds toward transformational change.If that’s you, I applaud you, and if it isn’t, and you haven’t been able to quite make that leap, be OK with that, nurture yourself and ask for any help that you need to pave the way forward. We all move at a different rate, and it takes as long as it takes. 

COMMITMENT IS KEY

Decisions are often made on the spur of the moment, when someone has been triggered by an event, (or something someone said), which creates a reactionary thought -then a belief, that  then creates a behaviour which gets a certain result. And this can happen in the blink of an eye. An example might be:A coach who made arrangements (and a decision) to take a weekend off in October to go with friends to a special event. So she checks her calendar on the Wednesday before, sees how full it is and groans in despair (Trigger) and then she thinks “This is not going to happen (thought) I have way too much to do this week to take time off” (belief) and she once again bows out of the arrangements. (behaviour) And the result is - no time off, again.This has happened for the last 4 months and each time she was determined that ‘next month will be different” and this is beginning to impact on relationships; it brings up her need for control and lack of trust (I’m the only one who can get this project finished”) and the coach has also realized that she has a problem saying no, hence the full calendar. 

She then feels that she should be able to organize things better. She feels guilty for not going and she is beginning to wonder if it’s all worth it. And this is just the start of a long list of patterns and behaviours that are showing up. 

When she looks at her full calendar on Monday morning she’s already playing catch-up. This woman is smart, savvy, and yet, here we are again.

What she hasn’t realized is that she is creating this herself. It’s her habits, thinking styles and beliefs that are supporting this chaos. The good news is that this can be changed. 

 

ON THE BACK FOOT ALREADY

What actually happened, is that before our coach even stepped into Monday she was on the back foot due to her thinking patterns. So it was a given that even more stuff ‘happened’ to take her out of the game by the time Wednesday came around. (an even fuller calendar) 

She actually created that situation, before the week even began..Her lack of trust in her-self (and likely others, and the Universe) and perhaps a feeling of ‘not good enough’ and the inability to let go might have kicked in, and before long, she was back at square one. This is how our 'monkey mind' mind tricks us. And we can fall for it every time! Realizing our part in this can be a huge breakthrough in and of itself.

But guess what? We are more than that. We are in charge of our mind, and therefore our results and unlike any other species, we are able to make choices.

Between our monkey mind, neurosemantics, Universal Laws and self-belief, habits and values, we have a kaleidescope of choices that give us an opportunity to be, do, have whatever we want in life when we work in harmony with the Universe and our natural instincts, rather than struggle at every stage. Self-belief and trust play a primary role in the quality of our results.

With our coach, the intention was there, the decision was made BUT it wasn’t a full-bodied - no matter what - kind of decision.  And that's what it takes, nothing less. Not a "might, or a  "would be nice" or "maybe"...may as well save your breath. (I have a very simple process I use to help clients embody their decisions.)

It’s about alignment and a full-bodied decision combined with commitment, and knowing where the change-power is in your thinking styles. You then get to do what you want, when you want, easily and effortlessly, and in flow with all that you are.

And this is what I help clients with. Today we can't do that, so I'm sharing some simple tips to help you take steps toward making commitments with intention. I'm sure you'll find them helpful.

 

 HERE COMES THE CAVALRY

I seriously believe that if we aren’t following through on intentions, we  aren’t fully on board with what we say we want. (I’ve experienced this myself and now notice this as a red flag.) And if that’s the case for you:

And if that stings a little, then maybe you really want to be committed and simply need a little help. There may be something you need to tweak or it could be more than that.

(Sidebar) If we were coaching together I would find out exactly what was holding your limiting beliefs and patterns in place so that we would know exactly what to work on. I really get that specific. For now though, I will share some simple tips to help make inroads into changing the status quo.

 

LET’S GO MICRO - (commitment is key)

Start small and be consistent. These tips will help.

For the next week - make a promise to yourself that no matter what you do - you will do it with commitment. And by that I mean you will decide either to do it - or not, nothing half-assed. Add a strong dose of gratitude that you GET to do it, and be in the moment as you actually take action on whatever it is. Create a simple ritual around it until it becomes a habit for you to be All In.

When you eat, - joyfully enjoy every morsel, savour the flavours, be grateful for everything that went into the growing and preparation of this dish. If you prepare the food, add more love to it.

When you speak with someone, be present, keep your eyes on them without distraction, be in the moment. Fully engaged.

When you go shopping, be intentional, be discerning, do you really want to eat this, wear that, go there? Honour your choices and stick with them. Give up compromising.

When you are speaking with a client, go deeper, listen intently, feel, notice what others don’t. BE at your best, don’t worry about solving anything, allow your inner knowing to guide you.

When alone, allow yourself the time to enjoy who you are and all that you have become. Don’t wait for the BIG results, celebrate every step of the way. Be OK with self-praise.

Design your environments for success. Whether it’s places, people, things, declutter and design your life exactly how you want it to look and be. Raise your standards. Kick out the deadwood.

You don't need to do all of these, all at once, pick the ones that resonate and allow the process. The idea is to slow down, breathe, appreciate, be in the moment. Habits are created, even the bad ones.  Begin to create more useful and joyful habits. It starts with a commitment.

Do this, and I guarantee you will become more aware of your blessings and your environments. You will begin to expect more of yourself and others. You will judge less, give more and you will also be less accepting of ‘junk’ anything. Including the people, habits, and actions that are no longer a fit in your world…the world you are now creating for yourself.

SHIFT HAPPENS

When you begin to make full-bodied decisions with intention, you become much more empowered, more comfortable in your skin and less likely to react to others opinions or judgements. And with that comes more opportunity to play, have more fun and be open to possibility - and allow more ease and flow into your life.

Yes, it takes practice but I think you’ll agree it’s totally worth it in the long term. Will you join me in becoming one of those people who make a commitment - or not!  and stick to it? 

Either decision is OK if it’s is full-bodied. Everything isn’t a fit, for you.. be OK with that. Be true to you. Learn to love and accept, appreciate, and be in awe of every little nook and cranny of yourself.

Say no to a half-assed life or business.

Say YES to a Lifestyle-Business that empowers you and those you serve.

Say an even bigger YES to a full-bodied Commitment to take a stand for everything you are and will be.

What this does is create and vibrate a higher energy level. Others begin to feel that energy and notice the difference. They become more open to your offers. You begin to care less about whether or not they sign up, and become more interested in finding out if they are indeed a good fit for what you offer. Your confidence and passion for your programme/s and services become obvious and your vibrations align with those clients who are an ideal fit.

This all begins with a commitment to take that next step, then the next until you become your own biggest fan and easily and effortlessly attract everything you want. Whether it's clients, money, freedom, a simpler lifestyle, a more luxurious lifestyle, it makes no difference. The difference comes from your commitment to the full-bodied decision and the actions you take every day to manifest your desires.

Commitment is Key - Decisions are Paramount

When you're ready to work with me and make dramatic changes in your life and business, PM me on facebook and ask me anything. Let's get you coached and give 2020 a swift kick in the pants as you embark on a brand new era of possibility and commitment.