When something feels out of your hands,... meaning. you have no control over the ‘outcome’ - it can feel very scary. Esspecially if like many of my clients you are a dyed-in-the-wool control freak...
... and your body has been programmed for action, your mind has been primed to ‘fix’, and your big beautiful heart is geared to being of service to others. But, no matter what you’ve tried, nothing works when it comes to your deepest fears and ‘stuckness’
The Deeper Fear
So here you are in 2026, thinking the same thoughts, feeling the same feelings and reacting in the same way you have for decades. No matter what you have tried.
And worse than that? You’re getting the same results! And that creates a much deeper fear that you don't even speak of.
You Know It
You know it, but you still can’t seem to do anything about it. Or nothing that lasts. When something feels out of your hands, that trigger and favourite escape click in before you can blink!
- Whether it's something in your business
- Your relationships
- Your financial situation
- Your career/job
- Over health/weight
Everyone thinks you are Awesome
Most of us have mastered one or more of the above, or believe we have. Yes, you make great money, help loads of people succeed in their own lives, and if a job needs doing, who do we call? YOU, probably, cos you are the obvious choice. Everyone thinks you are ‘awesome’, and you like that.
Yet here you are, feeling like a wide eyed scared kid who never really felt like they belonged, or they felt alone ,or unloved. And whenever something feels out of your hands, this is what your body remembers and triggers you into some kind of an escape.
Escapes such as:
- Getting over-busy
- Scrolling on social media
- Over-exercising
- Procrastinating
- Over eating/over drinking
- Feeling numb or tired
- Making plans
There are so many escape mechanisms we create over a lifetime and they become the norm the moment we are triggered.
And It Gets Worse!
Because they have become the norm, they aren’t even necessary anymore! We can just be washing up, having a cup of tea, or daydreaming, and BAM! a thought, feeling, emotion out of nowhere, knocks us sideways.
And its in that moment, that critical moment just before that where we have a choice that could potentially change our lives forever. And this is HUGE. Such a simple thing yet not many of us can recognize it right away because we have resisted it for so long. Why would we do that? Why is it SO hard?
Want Something Different?
To find out more - and better still, how to begin changing this in your own life, I invite you to watch this short 13-minute video my trainer/mentor/colleague Femke Mortimore created to explain this in more detail. throwittotheu.com
In the video Femke will explain specifically how this works for you, and how you can change it and step into the next chapter of your life as the true version of you who no longer needs triggers and escapes as motivators. and detractors It’s a game-changer.
I’m happily dedicating this year to assisting Femke in this awesome, life-changing ‘work and clients are already experiencing amazing shifts.
Here’s the link again, Enjoy! throwittotheu.com
Joan Bell
Joan is a Professional Certified Coach who thrives on a sense of freedom, whether it’s found in nature, the outdoors, or the simple pleasure of café culture. She feels most alive and free when walking, cycling, or laughing alongside her partner of 40 years. Originally from England, Joan embraced Australia as her home, drawn by its open spaces and laid back lifestyle that Aussies do so well. With Joan, you get what it says on the tin.
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